More Smart Things

 I love the responses to the recent post One of the Smartest Things I Ever Did - if you go to the comments you’ll see what I mean.  It’s amazing, isn’t it, how far consequences can reach into the future, isn’t it?  

For better or worse, were married to each and every decision we make - they’ll either be amongst the smartest things we ever do or amongst the dumbest. 

I urge you to read what others have had to say - you’ll learn something new, I promise you.  From what I hear there are more on the way.

I did get one response via e-mail, because she wanted to stay anonymous.  She said I could share her story this way, though. 

L said that, hands down, the smartest thing she ever did was to leave her emotionally abusive husband.  She said that while he never laid a hand on her, his cruelty hurt just as badly.  He would call her names - vicious, cruel names - even in front of people. In restaurants he’d make fun of how much she ate, even pointing out to the waiter or waitress the amount of calories she was “packing away.”  (That would have been the end of him for me.  I’d have pulled an AC/DC Dirty Deeds Done Dirt Cheap on him and found someone to do the dirty - cheap or not.)

L said she’d end up crying on the way home as he told her she was too much of a baby.  

He’s been out of her life for what she described as “The 6 happiest years” of her life. She found someone else - a man, this time rather than an ass.  She said that she had forgotten how FUN life can be.  This husband makes her smile and laugh - and she said that not only has she lost weight, but she has even been taken off 3 different medications she had to take while with the husband from hell.  Awesome!

Something that really stood out in my mind was this:  Before taking the Smartest Step she ever took, she used to count the minutes until bedtime, when she’d often cry herself to sleep.  She said that now she can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning to see what kind of great things the day has waiting to throw her way.

Well played, L!